What is a Blessingway like?
Based on the preferences, interests, rite of passage, community, and intentions of the honored woman, every Blessingway is designed uniquely, so no two are alike. Most Blessingways do have a basic format, however. Usually they begin by closing the circle and announcing our intention, followed by focused concentration on the emotional, mental, and sometimes spiritual work needed to face a new journey without fear or obstacles. We then enjoy activities that build positive energy, confidence, and community. It is usually during this time that we often adorn and gift the guest of honor. Finally we open our circle and enjoy a feast together. Often other entertainment, such as henna or bellydancing is also enjoyed during this time.
Is a Blessingway religious?
In short, yes and no. It can be a very spiritual experience for some, as they focus on themselves and those closest to them. Blessingways can, however, be as secular or religious as the guest of honor chooses. Regardless, every effort is always made to make every guest feel included and comfortable. Blessingways can and should be accessible to everyone present.
Why should I have a Blessingway?
A Blessingway is a time honored way in which to process and celebrate milestones in one's life. In our society, much emphasis is put on the external and consumer side of these life events, such as the aesthetics or the stuff we want- but often very little attention is paid to the internal side of these moments, the mental and emotional growth that it necessary to successfully navigate the next part of one's path. Blessingways are dedicated to this process, and allow one to gather community and receive support and encouragement when they need it the most.
I am able to offer my experience of having attended and facilitated many Blessingways, and can design a unique, inclusive, and meaningful ritual that flows smoothly. As a result, all the guests are free to enjoy and immerse themselves in the experience without the emotional and intellectual responsibility of hosting.
Can I still have a traditional shower or party?
Absolutely! Blessingways don't usually include gifts other than what might be asked of guests to contribute, such as beads for a birth and nursing necklace, and are meant to include one's most inner circle of friends and family. A traditional shower or party is a wonderful way to celebrate with one's larger community. Usually, the Blessingway is held on a different day, however I have had women successfully participate in a Blessingway and then went on to have a traditional shower after an hour break. There are many ways to mark a rite of passage!
How soon should I begin the process of planning a Blessingway?
Ideally, planning for a Blessingway should start as early as possible. Usually, I recommend beginning the process at least 6-8 weeks before the Blessingway to allow time for the invitations to arrive and for guests to plan attending and gather anything they may have been asked to bring. Depending on the kind of Blessingway and the number of guests, it can be done in slightly less time. I tend to plan Birth Blessingways for 3-4 weeks before the estimated date of delivery.
What services do you provide during the planning of a Blessingway and the event itself?
My services include consulting with the guest of honor or the host planning the Blessingway to meet the individual and personal needs of the honored and her guests and writing a ceremony that reflects those desires. I design and send handmade invitations to all guests. I carefully create the atmosphere in which the Blessingway will take place, and design and often make gifts for guests to take home. Finally, I lead the Blessingway and provide encouragement and support for all in attendance, and lend my background and understanding to every Blessingway I assist with to create an intimate, empowering experience for everyone.
While I do not provide a location, food, henna for guests (I can provide this for the guest of honor), or other entertainment such as bellydancing, I am more than happy to assist in adding these elements to the Blessingway and have many resources to offer as suggestions. I have an amazing henna artist and belly dancer I contract with and highly recommend.
I can also provide belly casting services before or during a Birth Blessingway. I also am able to paint your blank belly cast to something meaningful to you! I have an extensive art background and use it to work with you and your vision for the cast.
Casting only: $40
Painting Cost (includes casting):
1. All over color (you can add more decorations yourself if you’d like): $50
2.All over color plus a simple design on the belly: $100-175
3.All over color plus a mural of your choice: $175 and up
For #2 and #3 the fee is $40 an hour plus materials.
Are men allowed to attend Blessingways? Can a Blessingway be held for a man?
While Blessingways tend to traditionally focus on women, many men find the ritual of a Blessingway to be a welcome and enlightening experience, either as a guest or as the guest of honor. Alternatively, at many Blessingways women prefer to keep the circle to their community of women. It is entirely up to the individual that the Blessingway is for.
